When our son Jon died, more than twenty years ago, my husband and I were desperate for strategies to cope with the crushing sorrow that enveloped us. Notebook in hand, I began my quest to identify bereaved parents who had managed to step forward in their sadness. I wanted to talk with them; I wanted to know how, if possible, Charles and I might also move forward. Over the years, I’ve come to think of these brave souls as courageous daffodils – each caught in an unexpected snow storm; each determined to push through many hard layers of icy grief.
I’ve also gained helpful insight from various books and publications and received valuable information from support groups and organizations (sources cited for reader). I’m especially grateful for the special assistance of my good friend and former co-worker, Myra Bright, another parent well-versed in sorrow.
This collection of tips and pointers is intended to be shared with anyone navigating today’s varied experiences of debilitating loss. May we all find comfort and inspiration in this medley of tips.
Darby Harrison